Co-parenting is challenging, even when both parties work together. However, when one ex-spouse exhibits narcissistic tendencies, co-parenting can seem impossible.
Narcissists usually behave arrogantly and feel entitled to special treatment. As a result, your former spouse may act in a manner that makes parenting duties more difficult. While you cannot change their behavior, there are steps you can take to keep the peace in your family.
Keep communication to a minimum
You and your former spouse must communicate about child-rearing topics, such as schooling and medical care. However, you should refrain from discussing other matters, especially if conversations often devolve into fights and arguments. Because face-to-face communication can also lead to conflict, consider relegating communications to text or email.
Do not engage in conflict
People with narcissistic tendencies may try to inflame conflict on purpose. As a result, they can use words and language to intentionally irritate you. While it can be challenging, it is best to resist conflict at all times. By reacting neutrally, you can defuse some tension and stress from the situation.
Refrain from being negative
Narcissistic behaviors also impact kids involved in custody disputes. You can mitigate possible ill effects by avoiding negative statements about your ex in front of your child. Even if you feel justified, your child will likely feel sad or angry when hearing negative talk about a parent. Try to remain optimistic when discussing parenting matters in front of kids.
Developing a solid parenting plan can also help you avoid conflict. The court enforces the terms of parenting plans, which means you and your ex must follow established rules to prevent legal issues.